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Adjusting To Being A Single Mom
from: Karlie BestlerSingle moms are effectively left with the task of sole parenting and having to assume all related roles and responsibilities of raising children. Single moms are lone caretakers and sole supporters of the family. A single mom has to cope with all the care giving, nurturing, role modeling, challenges, rewards, obstacles and joys meant for a partnership of two. It can be overwhelming and and extremely tough to be a single mom having no one to share the load of responsibility.
Personal circumstances, divorce, abandonment, and death of partner are some of the main reasons that leave the main custodial responsibilities of raising children to a single mom. Few parents are really prepared for dealing with the aftermath of the loss of a partner, regardless of the cause. Feelings of desperation, being overwhelmed and stressed out are very typical. The demands of single parenting can seem like insurmountable challenges on any given day.
There are different stages in the process of becoming, living, functioning and thriving as a single mom:
1. It starts out with an assessment of the situation and a reality check. It will take some time for yourself and your children to work through the emotional challenges of this new situation and set of circumstances and transitioning into being a single mom.
2. Structuring and organizing the new family unit to function under new circumstances and surroundings. All the household responsibilities will now fall on the lone shoulders of the single mom and she will need to restructure how the family functions to meet the needs of all the individuals in the family, as well as how the family functions as a collective unit.
3. Functioning as a family. Fostering relationships and establishing bonds, trust, honesty, disciplines, roles and responsibilities of each family member.
4. Establishing a support system to help with responsibilities of school, family, friends, and family management.
5. Dealing with specifics of death, divorce, abandonment
Being a single mom is a process of adjusting to a gradually unfolding series of events in which she must:
* Meet new demands without the help of a partner.
* Help the children cope and thrive, despite change, loss and adjustment to new circumstances.
* Cope with the feelings and emotions of loss of partner.
* Move from old to new situation and reality, and even the uncertainty of moving on.
Being a single mom is a work in progress and it will take some time.
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